Hi everyone please help me, hope you all are doing well. Need suggestions especially from affected extra marital affair guys/girls.

I'm M30, not married searching alliance, kind of introvert from strict family. Till no love, relationship, physical anything but had crush and one sides. Now coming to the point,
In my company there is a married woman aged around 35+, but no one believe she is married and 35+ age, when I saw her first time I thought she is about 25 and not married and I had some crush too on her at that time, when I came to know that she is married and having +2 school going kid, I shocked and changed my mind to normal state (no crush feeling) and started to minimize our interactions . But she is very jovial, funny and talks casually to me and everyone. One day she was with her friend and her friend asked me about my marriage plans (she is also married and elder to me) , at that time I playfully said this ' if you were born after me and not married yet I would have married you' after hearing my words my crush replyed ' I'm also feeling in the same way (the meaning is like my crush has some feelings for me)'. I literally didn't know what to say and simply moved from there, now the problem is I couldn't stop thinking about her whole day and night, i tried to avoid her but working in a same company we have to meet frequently, some of our company staffs are also started to troll us like 'I set that women' etc. She is also aware of that troll and didn't react in any ways, she keeps talking to me as always (I don't know what she is feeling about me), whenever I see her, I couldn't stop myself from falling in love with her. I know It is completely wrong and not a moral thing. I can say that it is not a lust or physical attraction that makes me fall for her. So ladies and gentlemen please gimme some solid real life examples of extra marital relationship that ended in tragedy so that I can be in good track. Good bless you my fellas