32 M, Middle Class.
Long story, but please need a solution.
IT MNC la oru nalla position la 13 LPA salary la work pannitu irunthen. No loans, good peaceful life. Romba close friends circle nu sollu oru marriage varan vanthuduchu. Naan alagu, status, caste ethum paakala. Amma sonna orey reason. “Appa ilama valantha ponnuda, namma antha family ku oru support ah irukalam” nu sonnanga. Enga side la irunthu entha demand um vaikala. Jewels, Money, Dowry nra pechukey idam ila. Apdi dowry vaangurathu asingam nu nenachom.
Naan orey paiyan enga veetla. Naanum ok solli, ella arrangements um full swing la panniyachu. Enna vida enga amma thaan pala kanavugaloda irunthaanga. Enaku simple ah kovil la marriage pannanum thaan aasai. But ponnu veetu side grand ah pannanum sonnanga. We said ok. Marriage expenses full ah enga (boy) side thaan.
Antha ponnu veetu side, amma and 2 daughters. So avungalayum naanthaan paathukanum which is fine. Engagement completed.
All goes well and good. I was cherishing each and every moment. Invitation ellam print panni distribute pannitom. Friends and family ellarum invited. Enga vedey avlo happy ah irunthuchu.
Marriage ku correct ah 10 days munnala, periya periya demands oda ponnu veetlu family varaanga.
1. Udaney Chennai la 40L veedu vaanganum, antha veedu ponnu per la register pannathaan marriage nu. Enga side la irunthu evlovo pesnom. Marriage ku expenses ah almost 11 L kitta vandruchu. Ippadi all of the sudden ah ippadi oru demand pannreenga nu sonna, Veedu 10 day’s la vaanguna marriage liana, mudiyathu nu sonnanga. Unaku Financial Stabilty ila nu sonnanga. (athu ilama thaan ivlo expenses pottu marriage panrena? Note: One Rs. kooda kadan vaangla, full ah ennoda savings and parents savings thaan)
2. Itha pesitu irukum pothey, antha new house la antha ponnoda amma and sister naangathaan irupom num, un appa amma varakoodathu sonnanga. (More Shocking)
Avunga amma sis irakattum, No Problem. Because I have to take care of them after marriage. But ennoda appa amma vanthu poga koodathunu solrathu entha valila niyam nu enaku therla. Orey paiyan naan, en appa amma va road laya vida mudiyum?. Enaku onnum puriyala. Ithu ellamey antha ponnoda demands ah iruku. Ithu ellam first eh solliruntha naanga ivlo arrrangements panniruka maatom. 3 Months phone la message la pesum pothu, itha pathi oru vaartha kooda discuss panala. Last minute sonna kepppanganu nenacahangala enna nu therla. Athu epdi oru kasta padara family la iruthu grow aageetu, ipdi cruel aana demands ellam yosika mudiyuthu nu therla.
How cruel it is? Finally I have to call it off the marriage. But after effects la irunthu ennala innum veliya varamudiyala. Amma appa relatives munnala oru keli porul aagetaanga. Orey paiyanku kalayanam panni vaikanum nu nenachathu thappa. Naanum work place la romba asinga patten. Marriage ninnu ponathuku enna ennamo pesa start panntanga. Romba asingama irunthuchu. Sucide pannikalam nu kooda poiten. Roommates’ thaan save pannanga. Ofc la stress thanga mudiyala. Vera valiye ilama resign panten.
Kooda irunthu ennoda happiness, sadness share pannika oru soul mate thana venum nu nenachen. Athey maare, antha ponnuku ella ways layum supportive with love and care ah irukanum nenachen. Thappa ? But they are completely business mind ah irunthurukaanga. Ithu theriyama enna ennamo dreams lam panitu, Chai, enakey enna paatha asingma iruku.
Life layum thothuten, carrier layum thothuten. Financially also I’m down due to these marriage arrangements. Ipa job um illa. Orey asingama iruku. Romba kastama iruku. Intha trauma la irunthu enna la veliya varave mudiyala. Please help me. Pesama sethuralam pola iruku