30M, I am married for almost 3years and have a 1.8 years old daughter. Until last year September all was good among us. But I started seeing a change in her behaviour, she was always on phone, started to get up early(usually 9 mela dan Eluntirupa, but started noticing her getting up by 6:30) and use phone, Vera room ku poi phone pesuva. I asked her about it few times, she said office issues, team call, sev1 call nu solli samalicha! But it wasn’t stopping, I could sense something wrong and I asked her about it again, she said athu ellam onnum illa, na career lae dan focused ah irruken athukaga dan nu sonna… But I felt something is wrong. Within few days we went for an already planned trip to a state in north, while travelling to few places I had her phone mostly(basically to take pics) there we went to a sightseeing spots, were I happened to see her texts, appo partha dan theriyuthu etho oru echai flirt pannitu irrukan nu. Ithu dan antha matter nu therinjuthu! I was badly hurt and kinda frustrated because of this, but I didn’t ask her anything about it there. Trip was a worst one for me, we reached home and I asked her about it. She said friend ( that echai is her office mate from Australia) dan Vera onnum illanu and she promised ini ithu mari ellam nadakuthu nu. I trusted her and didn’t take it seriously as I thought she understood what it means to me and how I felt. After that few days appdiya pochi. Then a month later, she said she is going to met her friend and I trusted her words, approm ava 11 polae poitu eve 6 pola vantha, nalla pesuna ena achu enga ponnaga (mall) ena saputanga nu ellam sonna. The nxt day i meet a friend casually, he said that nerthu un wife ae intha hotel lae parthen nu, I was like cha cha irrukathu da it would be someone else, but he was sure that it was my wife nu. So once I reached home, asked her nerthu nee intha hotel ponniyanu, she confessed and said that she went to meet that Australia echai naai. I broke down and got very emotional and I felt betrayed! It was my worst day in my life, never got broken like this ever before, I trusted her and always prioritised her asks/wishes over mine. That night was hell, but she convinced me again and promised me that she will never let me down again. Then few months passed we were getting along well and things were good. Then again I noticed a change in her activities, gets angry on me, shows lot of attitude, later I found out that she was flirting and sexting another assh0le and ena pathium en family pathium thappu thappa solli irruka antha naai kitta. This time I informed it to her parents(even before opening up to their parents I asked if there’s is anything I should be made aware of, she said no) about it and they lashed at her, her parents this time convinced me asked to forgive. Oru rend naal silent ah irruntha, athuku approm eppo parthalum en kuda sanda dan, this is putting me in a state of depression. She fights with my parents too(but they don’t know anything about the issue) We are not talking to each for more then a month now, she goes out without saying a word, if I ask she makes a fight out of it and say why should I tell you, who are you to ask and such things make me emotional drained… Thriumba avanga veetlae irrunthu vanthu pesu nga to me and her, but ava en kitta ena potukudukiria nu kekura, and she says that na avanga parents tae ithae solli irruka kudatham and says nee un velaiya paru, na en velaiya paakuren nu. She is my love of life, what ever I did, I did with love and care… but why isn’t she understanding it, there maybe things which she dislikes on me, but athae pesi sari panni irrukanum. I don’t want to end this way. I am worried about my family and daughters future I am feeling depressed for months now, these things always running in my mind and I am unable to concentrate on anythings, but she does thing’s for herself alone and keeps herself occupied, but I am not able to coupe up these changes. My parents (aged and have health issues) are taking care of kid on daily stuffs.. I feel I am giving burden to my parents too and I get to many negative thoughts these days! My heart isn’t letting her go but my head says I deserve better. Not sure what to do, but I hope things get better or I take a right decision on this matter! Please share your advices with out abusing her, also keep me in your prayers!